Hurt, Alone, and Abandoned

Meeting Our Challenges Head-On!

 January 26, 2016

Dear Julie….please help. Me and my boyfriend broke up in November. We have been together 2 years. I’m 22 he is 24 and we have a 6 month old daughter together. We had an apartment and things were going pretty good and all of a sudden one night we got into an argument over money and things got very volatile. It ended up getting physical and he choked me. The police got called and he ended up going to jail and is now facing a felony assault charge.

I stayed away from him for about a week and I missed him and wanted to make things work so I went over to our apartment we shared and we talked. I know I probably shouldn’t have but I truly want my family together so I thought I would try.

Let me go back a little in our relationship: it hasn’t been perfect. I’ve been lied to and cheated on multiple times before I was pregnant and stayed, paid for him a car, he wrecked it two months later and still took him to work everyday, cheated on me while I was pregnant telling girls he didn’t find out till I was 5 months along which was a lie, hit me once when I was pregnant, and then after I gave birth to our daughter told a girl he was a single dad when he wasn’t and we lived together meanwhile I stayed with him through all of this and was never unfaithful to him.

Well now he wants nothing to do with me and says I’m the reason he’s in the position he’s in right now, he’s seeing other girls already and having sex. He barely sees his daughter anymore or asks about her, doesn’t give me any money to take care of her. He basically sees her when it’s good for him at this point. Honestly I still love him and want to make our family work, I don’t want to be another statistic in the books. I’ve tried and tried and tried and have put in so much time and care and effort and did everything for him and because of an action he chose now he wants nothing to do with us. I feel so hurt, alone, and abandoned. Any advice on what to do? –Hurt, Alone, and Abandoned


Dear Hurt, Alone, and Abandoned: You may have done everything you could to make it work, but it takes two. He is not interested in making it work–therefore, he’s not interested in you or your precious child. I’d say that’s his GREAT loss, but you need to move on.

You don’t want to be a statistic but better a statistic in the “books” than a statistic of an abused woman or child. You can do so much better. God bless you, Julie


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