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October 6, 2017

Dear Julie:

I am broken-hearted. Two years ago, a guy that I use to date over 20 years ago reached out to me. He was in Prison on a then 7-of-9-year stint. He’s married, but his wife moved on while he was incarcerated. We began communicating and keeping in touch. We eventually began to get serious. I would send him pictures, cards, and money because he had no family or friends’ support . . . except for a daughter that helped him out when she could. (Mind you, he has 6 kids, 4 with his wife and 2 by another woman.)

He was very spiritual and always spoke of the Bible as a lot of inmates do. I committed myself to this man for 2 years. He was finally released from Prison in 2016 and things started to go downhill. He began to lie about the simplest of things and bite my head off if I said anything to him. Well about a week ago, I caught him with someone they say he has been fooling around with–his own cousin.

We got into a big confrontation and now he’s calling me and texting me saying that he loves me and has deep feelings for me and he wants to be with me. How am I supposed to forgive someone who would have a relationship with their cousin? And I did everything for this man, put my all into this man, for him to betray me with his cousin. Help Please. –Brokenhearted

Dear Brokenhearted:

Let him go. You don’t say whether his wife divorced him or not. Nevertheless, even if he is free to marry, this guy is not worth your time or your tears. I believe in giving someone the benefit of the doubt, but look at his track record. You can do so much better. And don’t listen to him, he’s full of it. Remember that old saying, “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.”

God bless, Julie


Remember, friends, as challenges come our way, we can face them head-on through Christ who strengthens us!

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2 Responsesto “Broken-hearted”

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  2. Julie Admin says:

    Thank you, Carma!

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