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March 18, 2016

Dear Julie:

My husband left me in October, 2015. We have 2 living sons together, but we also had 3 more children that miscarried. He has four other children with the woman he left me for. They have been together off and on since high school, she carried on an affair with his cousin the entire time, he split with her and that was when we met. It’s been on again off again until he got sent to prison. He was locked up for 18 months and I waited for him. When he got out he said he wanted me and only me. We got married in 2013 and I thought it was gonna be forever.

Do I wait for him, I guess I should explain more. My husband was a Meth addict, this led to prison. He had been sober since getting out. His girlfriend uses as well. In May, 2015 he ran over our 5 year old son with a riding lawnmower and refused counseling. After that, things went downhill fast. He started using again. Then I said no more, get clean or leave. He left. Our son’s right foot was severed, his growth plate doesn’t work. I don’t know if it’s his guilt that caused him to relapse. I can forgive him the cheating, but I have been told by people that God has someone else someone better. I pray daily for the restoration of my marriage. What should I do divorce. Or wait? Please help. –Heartbroken


Dear Heartbroken:

Your husband carries a load of baggage (drugs, unfaithfulness, injuring his son, and so on). It seems only the power of God can free this man from his addictions and guilt. And only God knows whether there is hope for him and your marriage.

Feeling as you do about wanting to salvage your marriage, I’d pray (and I’m asking our readers to join you and me in prayer) for God’s perfect will to be accomplished in your life. Then, while you’re waiting for Him to work things together for good, focus on your children, making their life as “normal” as possible.  They need you more than ever–make them your first priority.

It may be your friends are right, but I’d wait a bit and give God a chance to redeem this man you love.

God bless you,


Remember, friends, as challenges come our way,we can face them head-on
through Christ who strengthens us!

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