I Can’t Take This

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March 28, 2017

Dear Julie, I have been in an abusive relationship for 10.5 years. It has gotten very physical before but it’s mainly emotional and verbal. He has broken my trust multiple times by cheating, he has broken my heart a million times with his words and affection. It’s like he’s my enemy instead of my partner when he gets mad and the fact that he can’t control me he says hurtful things about my parents friends whoever I love. I’m always called trash, trifling, anything you can name he says. Then just because he found me guilty on seeing another man or talking to men, as he says, he will not let me live it down. All we do is argue because he’s always throwing my wrongs up. I can forgive him but he can’t forgive me. It’s like we’re arguing everyday about something I did in the past as if it’s present time. –I can’t take this

Dear I Can’t Take This:

From what you’ve said, it doesn’t sound like you are married. If you aren’t, my first response is to ditch this man. You’ve wasted too much time already on him. His badgering is unfair and cruel. Not to mention the physical abuse. He needs to stop, at once. Don’t give him another chance to hurt you, either emotionally or physically.

Are you Christians? He certainly isn’t acting like one. He certainly isn’t loving you as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25.) If he claims to be a Christian, can you get him to Christian counseling?

It seems you are willing to forgive him most anything, but forgiveness goes both ways. You are a team, not enemies. A counselor could help him see this, maybe. God bless you. Julie


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