Lost and Overwhelmed

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April 18, 2017

Dear Julie: I am writing to you because I am lost and overwhelmed. I am married and have 4 beautiful teenage daughters. I struggle daily! I feel out of control and have severe anxiety. Two years ago I had finally decided that I was okay with being average. But then at church the following Sunday, a prophet called me up to the front and told me that I was not meant to be average, etc.

So I started working hard at finding a better job and about seven months ago I got that good job. But it was a very stressful job that doesn’t help my anxiety at all. My current marriage has been full of separations, affairs, physical, emotional abuse . . . and although it is no longer physical, I struggle with disgust with him and my children ask me to leave him.

He is lazy, an alcoholic, and just isn’t there. My 15 and 16 year old push me around and are very rude, my 11 year old is and always has been a handful (almost like sensory processing issues). She yells, hits, says no one loves her, punches holes in the wall, won’t shower, won’t sleep—but is perfect everywhere but home! My finances are a major major MAJOR mess and I feel like I’m drowning!! Just to mention some of it! I am tired of this! Sick of it!!! I don’t want this anymore!!—Lost and Overwhelmed


Dear Lost and Overwhelmed:

I don’t like to contradict your prophetic message but there are two things I wrestle with. Number one: no child of God is “average.” We are children of the living God and are destined for Heaven! Number 2: I think this prophet has caused you to question what is important in your life right now.

Advancement in the physical world can often cause disruption in the family.
As you say, it’s a stressful job and is causing you to be anxious. This cannot be helpful in your family. Your marriage is falling apart and your children are out of control. I don’t know if your marriage is salvageable at this point, but if
you could get your husband off the couch and out to work, your finances would improve and you, hopefully, could stay home with the children more.

As I see it, your kids are your top priority. You’ll only have them a few more years and they need to be ready to face the world. Don’t send them out to start families of their own until you can show them what a successful family, based on God’s principles, looks like. Can you get the entire family into Christian family counseling? Can your pastor suggest a counselor he trusts for you?

Again, as a child of God, you are not AVERAGE. And, once the children are grown, you can follow your personal dreams. In the meantime, take a lesson from the apostle Paul who said “I have learned in whatever state I am there with to be content.”

Don’t be overwhelmed—you can do this. Why do I say this? Because you are a daughter of the King. And, as such, you can draw on His love and grace and power. When we are weak, then He is strong.May God bless you and give you peace and contentment. Julie


Remember, friends, as challenges come our way, we can face them head-on
through Christ who strengthens us!

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