Needing Help

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August 23, 2016

Dear Julie:

I’m in a relationship for 4 years. He has this one ex he refuses to lose contact with. When I asked him what’s going on, he says they are just talking. He has cheated and we made amends, and then I see him on Facebook still trying to get to know other women and calling them beautiful. He says he does it to pass time. I don’t indulge in behaviors like that.

Recently we had huge fight after I lost a baby. He hit me. I stabbed him. We have been separated for almost 2 months. I turned to God. And now he keeps telling me he loves me and let’s regroup. My heart really loves him and I really want to get back together because he is the father of my kids.

But I just recently saw a text from his married ex stating she can’t wait for this weekend and a room price. When she called, I answered and gave him the phone. He told me that she was worried I was gonna tell her husband. I’m just trying to understand him.

I told my kids’ father that if sex with her is worth losing your family then by all means do it and enjoy yourself . He keeps promising me and stating he is not going to go through with their planned fiasco. I just told him I’m trusting God because he will reveal it.

I love him and he does anything for the kids and me. He’s just into sex, is some type of lust demon? I don’t know. He does things that he wouldn’t accept me doing and then acts as if nothing is wrong. The minute I tell him I’m good and we should not be together, that’s when he begins to fight for our relationship. But what should I do?–Needing Help

Dear Needing Help:

What should you do? I suggest you read what you’ve written above and pretend it was written by your daughter. What would you tell her to do?

Here’s what I think. You should turn away from this lust demon and run as fast as you can to God. This man is bad for you. And as for you, you are not exercising good judgment in talking about his sins to your children. Do NOT drag them into this mess. Protect them at all costs.

Sorry I can’t be more encouraging but I can see no way that a continuing relationship with this man would be good for you or for your children. Praying for you to have the courage to walk away. God bless, Julie


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