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April 26, 2016

Dear Julie:

I would like your advice. I’ve been married for 5 years. At 18 I was forced to marry because I was having sex. I was cheated on and lied to and mistreated most of the years. Then he went to jail. I completely fell in love with someone else. I lost all love I ever had for my husband and I’ll be divorced on the 25th of February.

Now that I’m over him, he’d like to work things out but I have no desire to be with him at all, and I want to eventually soon marry my boyfriend. God hates divorce but I don’t love my husband and I’m happy about my divorce…am I wrong? I felt forced to stay married and I don’t want to feel like that, I want to be with the one that treats me good and shows his love for me, not the one that hurt me for years.

I’ve prayed about this, I’m almost positive I have God’s blessing to move forward but please let me know what you think. I need HIS will In my life. -Seeking God’s Will

Dear Seeking God’s Will:

First of all, I appreciate your need to have God’s will in your life. That’s very important.

I don’t blame you for feeling the way you do about your husband. He did everything wrong. Do you have any reason to believe he has changed or do you sense it’s just an attempt to get you back?

Since, as you recognize, God hates divorce, let me ask you this. Would you consider legal separation while you sort out your feelings for your husband? Would you give him a chance to PROVE he’s genuinely sorry and is a changed man–God’s man. Is he a believer?

Is your boyfriend a believer? Because I’d hate to see you jump from one bad situation into another. If your boyfriend is not a believer, then I’d encourage you to wait before marrying him. Give yourself plenty of time to be certain he is who you think he is.

Seems like “wait” is what I’m hearing from God. Wait to see if you could ever love your husband again. Wait before jumping into another relationship where Christ is not at the center.

These things are totally your decisions to make. Obviously, I can’t tell you what to do because I don’t KNOW what is best for you. But I can tell you that it never hurts to go slow. Watch and wait lest you make a mistake. I believe God will lead you. Just listen for His still small voice. Read the Bible and pray.

May God bless you and give you clear direction. Praying for your happiness. Julie


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2 Responsesto “Seeking God’s Will”

  1. Lynn says:

    I like how first you responded to this woman’s needs with sound, Biblical wisdom, then released her to decide for herself.

  2. Julie Admin says:

    Thank you, Lynn. I’ve found that’s the best and most effective way to address issues.

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