Sincerely Confused

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March 10, 2017

Dear Julie:

I am a 29 year old single mother who will be 30 in a couple of weeks. The Lord has blessed me with a wonderful 12-year-old son who means the world to me. I got pregnant at 16, but had him at 17. I was so young and foolish I always thought me and his dad would be together as a family. My dreams were surely shattered at a young age and even as we grew older. He broke up with me a week before I found out I was pregnant and honestly even as friends he hasn’t been a provider for his child.

But that’s the issue, since then even within these 12 years I’ve been looking for someone to come into my life to be my husband and a dad figure to my son. I’ve gone through so many boyfriends and just have sex with random guys to fill my wants and needs.

I found God at 19 years old, but yet I still didn’t change my ways. I was in the world of smoking, drinking, sex, pills, homosexuality. But the Lord never gave up on me. I joined my 1st church ever Jan. 2015 and I thought everything was going to be perfect, but I fell back into the world.

Everyday I’m trying to make Jesus my main focus and live according to his will. I stopped smoking, no more homosexual activities, or drugs; but I was still sexually active. I met a guy and we dated off and on for 2 months. I think he’s a good person, but he has his faults. He’s a believer, but he’s still amongst this world. I broke up with him twice because first I went thru his phone and saw conversations I didn’t like and second the mother of a child he raises as his was in my inbox saying they were still dealing—which he denies.

Well he came back and this time we’re taking it slow and starting over as friends. I’m continuously praying God shows me if I should take it as far as a relationship again. I really want to. He’s a good guy, he was good with my son the time we were dating, and I really have feelings for him. Well we dated the first two times we had sex, I got pregnant, but I lost the baby. I want to start over new and wait for marriage to have sex, but I haven’t told him about the sex and waiting until marriage part. Since we have a past together is it too late to wait now? Or am I being a fool for even trying the third time around? –Sincerely Confused


Dear Sincerely Confused:

It is never too late to do things God’s way and, my dear sister, His way is the only way that works. You are right to want to save sex for marriage. If this fellow loves you, he will be willing to wait and he will respect you for taking a stand to do things right, especially if he’s the believer he claims to be. You owe it to yourself and to your child to completely turn your life over to God and let him lead you in paths of righteousness. The old life is best put away. You already know it offers you nothing but heartache. The road ahead is filled with joy and purpose if you give your life over to God.

Bless you, dear one. Julie


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