Sticking with God

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March 14, 2017

Dear Julie:

I’m currently going through marital problems. Me and my husband have been married a year and couple months. He’s 27 and I’m 25. We’re both Christians but I have a deeper spiritual level from his. I have a secret place that I go to pray and talk to God. I read his word and pray daily.

But I’m dealing with a spouse who can’t seem to leave his family and they make it no better they try to give him a reason to run to them, especially his dad. I feel unloved by my husband who says such mean things but I know it’s the enemy.

We recently got our own place that I’ve been fasting and praying on. We were staying in his parents’ place and we stayed arguing. He also got physical a few times but the moment we got on our own, the atmosphere changed. We were at peace and still to this day if I go to that house that my husband call his home, the atmosphere changes and we argue and he gets physical.

Just this Labor Day I went just because it was a holiday. I was staying away and at peace but I figured since it’s the holidays I’d go be with my husband and his family. And, I kid you not, it happened again. He got physical. I feel like he hasn’t truly found God and that house is filled with evil spirits. My husband took his things and left, but I’m trusting in God that he’s using this time to heal us both.  God hates the divorce—he said what he put together let not man put asunder and I’m believing and sticking with that.
–Sticking with God


Dear Sticking with God:

I’m sorry your husband hasn’t understood the importance of Genesis 2:24, when it comes to marriage, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” Until he learns to put you first (as he should), there will be problems. You are dealing with his struggle between the old man and the new man.

Apparently his folks are not believers (at least it doesn’t sound like they are) so life at their house may be full of things that would please the flesh but would not be pleasing to God. It’s okay with your husband until you show up and are a reflection of God’s grace. Then he feels guilty and resorts to physical abuse. I think the best thing you can do is to be loving and kind to him but, at the same time, stay away from his parents’ house because of the way he acts when you are there. Make him miss the peace and loving kindness you give him until he is ashamed of the “pigpen” and returns home like the prodigal son did.

I’m sure his dad misses his son, but he must learn that his son’s place is with you now. His son is no longer a little boy, but a grown man who needs to establish his own home. I’m sure his mother also misses her son, but she also must learn that his place is with you. There’s an excellent book I often recommend and I hope you can get a copy. It’s called “Mothers-in-law vs. Daughters-in-law: Let there be peace” and it’s by Elisabeth Graham. Hang in there. Do what you can and then trust God to work things out for you.

God bless you, Julie


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