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July 12, 2016

Dear Julie: I am a married 29 year old, saved, sanctified, and filled with God’s precious Holy Spirit. I love my husband. But he has done nothing but cheat, lie, and abandon me time after time. We got a divorce; then after almost a year, we remarried. A month after our remarry he went back to an ex that he had left me for. We have not been together since. He recently has been trying to get back together but I feel like his back-up plan till he can find that chic he really wants to be with.

I’m tired and know I need to leave him and let him be, but it’s hard because for one thing I do love him and for two before we married I prayed and ask God if it was not his will not to let it happen and he allowed it. I was prophesied to, saying that I was to get married at a certain age that is coming soon.

We have babies together. I just really want to know God’s direction for my life. It hurts so bad. I’m tired of wondering will things ever get better, was the prophecy a lie, cause I dare not say God lied but I’m so confused and lost cause I put my all in this marriage.–Tired

Dear Tired: Bless your heart, you are in a tough spot. For one thing, I wouldn’t put stock in the prophecy unless you KNOW the prophet is sent from God. (In the Old Testament, there were lots of false prophets. The only way to tell if they were for real is if EVERY single prophecy came true. If it didn’t, that prophet was stoned to death.)

When God sends you a man of his choice, you will know it. He will be kind and caring; he will love God and he will love you. He will lead you even as he follows Christ. You will trust him and want to be his soulmate. Therefore, do not blame God if someone altogether different from this comes along and you fall for him. God does not FORCE us to do things his way; he allows us to make our own choices.

You haven’t said whether your husband professes to be a Christian, but he certainly doesn’t act like one. Because you have babies together, I’d suggest you try one last time to get your husband into Christian counseling. If he refuses, I see no other recourse for you than to face the facts. He has abandoned you for other women and, according to I Corinthians 7:15, you are not bound in such circumstances.

May God direct your steps,


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