What Else Can I Do?

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January 23, 2017

Dear Julie,

I was married for 15 yrs. but we were together for 28. Drinking was always a problem between us.His family are drinkers & mine are not. I was a bartender/waitress for 20 yrs. but hardly ever had a drink. I just never really liked the taste. When I quit bar tending, I really didn’t like it even more. I tried talking, pleading, and eventually threatening. I threatened divorce for a couple of years, but nothing worked.

Next, he started doing synthetic marijuana. I’d already been thru him smoking crack,snorting & smoking meth, and this was just the last straw. He got busted & that’s when I told him I was done. I moved out into my travel trailer in the driveway and filed for divorce. He put on like it bothered him but it didn’t.

He started going out every nite, sometimes all nite & getting drunk, now drinking whiskey along with beer & he was still smoking fake weed. My divorce wasn’t final yet & on my birthday I saw him and a woman come out of the house at 5:00 a.m. & get in his truck. I asked him from beginning if he would please wait & show some respect before bringing somebody home with him. So much for respect & what hurt most was it was the morning of my birthday. I was already not in love with him anymore, because of all that I’d been thru with him. I did still love him but that killed all that love on that morn.

He moved his girlfriend in before I even moved away. He continued drinking & partying (doing drugs) with his girlfriend, who is a known crack/meth user. She lost her boys cause of her partying. I’ve been nice & even talked to her trying to keep the peace. I’m having trouble getting him to do what he signed a notarized paper saying he would do. She doesn’t like him coming to my house. He’s also not paying what the court ordered to pay. I hate to file contempt of court but looks like I’m not gonna have a choice.

I can’t get alimony if he’s in jail. Also he’d lose his job & probably all that we’ve worked so hard, for what he’s got. I couldn’t afford to buy him out so I had to move away from my daughter, son-in-law & grandkids that live next door. I turned to God & have been going to church & I know it’s made me a better person. At times I struggle like everybody does, but there’s times it’s really hard. I pray about it all the time. I want to live how God wants me too. –What else can I do?

Dear What Else?

I admire and honor you for your stand. You would have every reason to be bitter but you wisely have chosen to take another path. May God bless you as you move forward with your life and leave vengeance to God (Romans 12:19). At the same time, if you have to file contempt of court papers in order to obtain what the court has granted, go ahead and do so. The courts are there to protect you.

I pray you will experience much better times in the days ahead and that you will continue to have close contact with your daughter and her family. God is faithful and He loves you. Readers, can you help us here?



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