Broken and Used

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April 1, 2016

Dear Julie:

Hello I just needed some uplifting . I am currently in a broken state. This was our second chance at happiness and he tells me I blew it. Three weeks ago I asked him for love and some attention and affection. He says that since he never does these things, I will never get them. I was not expecting him to blow up on me like that. It’s been 3 weeks now he will barely talk to me, he doesn’t even want to be on the same room with me . I never expected just asking for the simple things would cause me to lose my relationship.

I feel so hurt because I really wanted this to work. I’ve tried talking to him, praying about the situation, but he continues to shut me out. I put my whole heart, life and soul into this man. Even after I got pregnant, he denied both of us until I had to take him to court. When he found out it was his baby, he started to come around and wanted to start being a family.

I forgave him, but he says I haven’t, and so he abandoned the situation and changed his number. I feel like I was used. He was only here so he would not have to pay child support. He did contribute to the household but not as much as if he were to pay child support. I feel like he never really loved me. My family thought I was stupid for taking him back in the first place and that’s just how I feel– stupid, broken, and used. All I do is cry and nothing I do takes the pain away. Who knew asking for a simple hug and kiss could cause so much chaos? I wanted to be married so badly. I’m 35 and now I have 5 kids. Who’s going to want me. You know that my options are limited. -Broken and Used


Dear Broken and Used:

You haven’t mentioned God, so I don’t know if you have a relationship with Him as your heavenly Father. If you aren’t a Christian, I’ll be glad to tell you how to do that. Then you’ll have Him comforting you and helping you during hard times.

If you are a Christian, then I’d invite you to go back and read the post from January 12. Read it all the way through and when you come to the picture, say the words over and over to yourself. You are a daughter of the King. You deserve to be treated as a princess. This man is not treating you like a princess. Toss him out.

Daughters of the King don’t have to put up with this kind of disrespect. Turn to God and let Him provide for you and the children. Read other posts and see what other women in your position have found about how He cares for them. You may still find a godly man who will love you and your children. In the meantime, let God be your husband. Be strong.

God bless,


Remember, friends, as challenges come our way,we can face them head-on
through Christ who strengthens us!

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