Meeting Our Challenges Head-On!

January 5, 2016

Hi Julie: I’m completely heartbroken. My boyfriend and I broke up yesterday. Everything we’ve built is now tumbled onto the ground, how hard I tried to make it work doesn’t mean anything anymore, everything I did for him doesn’t mean anything, I gave myself to him and now that’s gone and irreplaceable, and my love for him will slowly fade away. I miss him already and I cannot imagine my life without him now that I’ve had him. I do not know what to do now. I know there is a light at the end of the tunnel, but I don’t want to even open my eyes to see the light. I don’t want to move on, because the only one I’ve ever wanted was a man like him. Now I no longer have him, and I won’t find another like him. How do I get through this break up? I need advice, please.Thank you, in advance. -Devastated


Dear Devastated: Your story is tragic and I’m truly sorry you’re going through this. You don’t say how old you are but it’s a fact that women, young or old, usually suffer more emotionally from a breakup than males do especially if the relationship has become sexual. Why? Because girls tend to give away a part of their hearts along with the sex which makes it all the more painful when the relationship ends.

You’ve probably heard the old saying that boys give love to get sex and girls give sex to get love. And that’s quite often the case. So expect the pain that comes from losing a part of your love, but know that, as time goes on, your heart will ache less and less and you will discover there are other guys who interest you.

For now the best thing you can do is try to focus on the positive. What have you learned from this experience that can help you avoid similar heartbreak in the future? And then going forward, know this: the best long-term relationships are formed by people who truly admire one another at the friendship level. So get to know guys as friends first, friends that would look out for you.

When you’re ready for another relationship, go into it better prepared to handle the temptations that will doubtlessly arise. Date in groups. Agree to limitations in your dating relationship (holding hands, light kisses) that will safeguard you from further heartbreak.

Best advice I can give you is this: pray that God will guide you into a healthy relationship with a man who will love you as long as you both shall live–a man who will treasure and protect you–a man who will inspire you to be the best person you can possibly be. That’s the kind of man who will be faithful, easy to love, and deserving of your respect. God bless you. Julie



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