Feeling Trapped

Meeting Today’s Challenges Head-On!

December 8, 2015

Dear Julie: I don’t know why the Spirit is leading me to contact you as I’m not a person to tell my business. I’m a woman of God and hold an office as elder in my church. My husband is also a believer and I’ve been with him for twenty years (married for fifteen). We have two kids, ages nineteen and twelve. I’m not in love with him now, though I once was. He knows how I feel as I’ve talked to him about what I should do. What advice can you give me? –Feeling Trapped


Dear Feeling Trapped: I believe the Spirit is leading you to this column because what you are dealing with is important for everyone, but especially for someone who holds an office in the church. My husband is also an elder and, as such, has a responsibility before God to lead a life that mirrors scripture.

God instituted marriage in the first place in the Garden of Eden when He brought Adam and Eve together. Genesis 2:24 states, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” How can you divide one flesh without a painful tearing apart which is what divorce does? Are there serious insurmountable issues between the two of you? Have you considered counseling?

I’d suggest to you, my friend, that you consider stepping aside from your office at the church and concentrate on pleasing God in your marriage. You once loved your husband, and I want to believe you can again. Spend time reminiscing about the good times, the times when you both wanted to please each other, the times you walked together and hated to part. Marriage and parenting is hard work and it’s easy to forget what drew you together in the first place. But try. It’s worth the expense of energy and time both for yourselves and for your children. May God bless you as the two of you work things out. Blessings, Julie


Remember, friends, as challenges come our way,
we can face them head-on
through Christ who strengthens us!

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