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December 2, 2016

Dear Julie:

I’ve been dating this guy since 2011 but we have had some trials! You know as young men get older, they like to go explore other women, but I always took him back! We were high school sweethearts.

I lost my first child at age 16 by him but we stayed together. As of 2014 things got really rocky, from the females disrespecting me & his disrespect also. But I stayed because I love this guy so much! I will do anything for him. In 2014 our daughter passed so we decided we would wait until marriage for our next one.

He started cheating again with some other woman and finally, after 4 years, I cheated back unintentionally & he left me so quick! Broke my heart even more to make me feel like he didn’t love me like I loved him. Now he just had a newborn baby by the girl you can say he cut ties with me for.

I’m really hurt by it. He wants to come back but I cannot let him come back into my life with all these new beginnings only to end up hurt again.– I need prayer!
Dear I Need Prayer:

If you can believe it, there was once a time, not so very long ago, when men who used women to satisfy their sexual desires were called cads. Now young men come and go, and society just accepts it as okay. To borrow your own words, “You know as young men get older, they like to go explore other women.”

Sure they do, but it’s still wrong. God says that fornication is wrong. Sexual intimacy is to be reserved for the marriage bed. Adultery was once punishable by death. Strong punishment, right? But who benefited most from these rules? Mostly women and children. These “old-fashioned” rules were there for our protection.

So your boyfriend comes and goes, and eventually breaks your heart. And you have no recourse because he has never promised to forsake all others, cleaving only to you. To make things worse, you “unintentionally” cheated back. Sorry, but by doing that, you made yourself as bad as him.

But that’s in the past. There’s nothing you can do about it now. Nothing but pray. And grow in grace. And learn to save yourself for a man of God who will treat you like the valuable person you are. Are you a believer? You didn’t mention it in your question. I hope you are because that makes you all the more precious in God’s sight. That makes you His daughter, a child of the King of Kings. Seek His forgiveness and move on with your life.

I’m sorry for your heartbreak and hope that this will spur you on to better choices and a happy future.

God bless you. Julie


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