Needing Help

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August 12, 2016

Dear Julie:

I am 23 years old and have been married to my husband for a little over a year now. My husband works very hard and all the time. Since he works all the time, we only get to see each other at nights since I am in school and work. I believe my husband is addicted to pain pills since he takes quite a few a day! It’s putting us in financial binds so much to were he is asking a friend for money, and I am not okay with that! I’ve tried talking to him about it and he always says that he will stop and figure it out but after a month or a week he’s doing the same thing all over again, and every time I bring it up he gets so defensive, it turns in to a big fight!

I’m trying to listen to what the Lord says but I feel as if I am so stressed out with this life I am numb and can’t hear what he is trying to tell me! I just want to know what to do and how to help him! I am very big believer in God’s word and don’t believe in divorce and my husband is also a big believer in God. That’s why I’m so confused as to why he is doing this!

Julie I need help with my marriage I am just not happy with how its ending up. I am lost and confused and could really use some help! Thanks in advance. –Needing Help
Dear Needing Help:

Sadly, pain killer addiction is becoming more commonplace and you know firsthand how difficult this can be. What makes pain killer addiction so insidious is that the drugs were prescribed to deal with unbearable pain. To go off them promises more pain! Who wants that? Not only that but, from what I’ve heard, the detox process itself can be nightmarish.

Can you persuade your husband to talk with the doctor who is prescribing the pills? Tell him what’s happening and get help. That failing, maybe you could talk with your pastor. Perhaps he’ll suggest an intervention, and that way you can help get your husband the assistance he needs.

I did an internet search (googled) on “help with addictions for family members” and came up with a long list of do’s and don’t s and organizations that offer help. I would advise you to check into one or more of these helpful groups. Educating yourself on how to help your husband can really enable you to be of assistance. Check out your community resources as well. In our town, there’s an organization called Lutheran Community Services that offers help on a sliding scale so that it’s affordable or free. Perhaps there’s an organization like that in your town.

I admire your dedication to your husband. You already know addictions can traumatize the entire family and it could get worse yet. But with God’s help and your determination, I believe you can make a go of it. Pray hard and go as God leads.

Praying for you. Julie


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