Searching Girl

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August 5, 2016

Dear Julie:

I have so much guilt. I was baptized 5 years ago after going through a divorce between my parents, and exiting a very emotionally abusive relationship. After being baptized and the after effects of those events taking toll, I went on a dark path, searching for value and worth in places like drinking and clubs.

About a year ago I decided that I couldn’t do it anymore and that God wanted more for me and was calling me to more, so I fully surrendered to Him. This is where the guilt comes in, there is one area of my life I keep sinning in. Though I know right from wrong and truth from lies, I have gone back to that sin multiple times and I carry so much guilt and shame and I find myself thinking “God I know you are so good, why do I keep choosing ways outside of your will for me? How can you possibly still love me and forgive me, when will I be done with this for good?”

I want this guilt and shame to be gone and I want my mind to be so renewed by Him that those old ways aren’t appealing to me. I want to rest in Him instead of trying to measure up to a place where I can accept His grace.–A Searching Girl


Dear Searching Girl:

The good news is that God loves you. Nothing can separate you from His love. “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 8:38-39).

The bad news is that Satan hates God and does all he can to cause God’s beloved children to stumble. He leads us on saying “oh, it’s just a little sin, no one will care, everyone does it.” And so we sin. THEN he casts blame on us to try to get us to despair, “you’re no good, God won’t love you now.” We know this is true of Satan–he’s a liar and the father of lies, he’s the accuser of the brethren, he roams the earth seeking whom he may devour.

So you admit you have an area of sin in your life. God doesn’t condemn you for it–He offers a way out. “If we confess our sin, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sin and to cleanse us from all righteousness” (I John 1:9). He will forgive us 70×7 until we finally, of our own free will, cast it aside and move toward holiness. It’s a process we all go through.

Something you said resonates with me: “I want to rest in Him instead of trying to measure up to a place where I can accept His grace.” May that be the soul’s cry of every one of us. We MUST rest in Him because we can never measure up. All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23). That’s why we need Jesus so very much. That’s why God’s gift of His only begotten Son is so precious. Without it, we’d be totally lost and without hope.

“For God so loved the world that he gave his only-begotten Son that whosoever believes on him should not perish but have everlasting life” (John 3:16).

I love your tender conscience. It’s a gift from God. It’s the Holy Spirit wooing you, convicting you of sin, righteousness and judgment. You’ll be okay as long as you continue to listen to his wooing.

God bless, Julie


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through Christ who strengthens us!

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