Thinking the Worst

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April 7, 2017

Dear Julie:

I have been going through some marital problems and have asked God to help me through them. I know he has helped me. I have confessed my sins daily and still feel like I’m getting nowhere at times in my marriage. My husband is good for a while and then falls back into his other relationship.

I have told him I am important and deserve better, and that he can’t keep doing this. What am I to do? I tell him if he doesn’t love me to move out, but he says nothing. I’m so lost and constantly thinking/feeling the worst. –Thinking the Worst


Dear Thinking the Worst:

Is your husband a believer? He certainly isn’t acting like one. If he is, then he needs to become accountable to men in the church who should hold his feet to the fire until he begins to act like a Christian. See Ephesians 5:25-33. Have you asked him if he is holding anything against you? You can’t make things right if you don’t know what is bugging him.

As much as God hates divorce, there is biblical justification for it when it comes to adultery. Your husband is guilty of this and has abandoned you. You do not need to stand for that. You have a painful decision to make: Continue on as you are doing or take a stand.

I wonder if legal separation would help you both sort things out. Legal separation allows both parties to take a timeout and determine what is important to them in the relationship. It’s called tough love because it is tough, and you are taking a stand that could backfire. He could leave you for good . . . OR he may finally realize what a gem he has and forsake all others (after all isn’t that what marriage vows are about in the first place).
God bless you, Julie


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