Unfairly Treated

Meeting Our Challenges Head-On!

 January 8, 2016

Dear Julie: I’m having a hard time letting go of this 3 year relationship that has ended going on 3 months now. I’m angry at the way he broke up with me. See I have a child, and he came into my life when I was 7 months pregnant and basically was the only father she knew. He never gave me closure even after I had asked and he blocked me from every communication possible, and I never did anything that bad to receive such treatment. I really thought he cared for us, but someone who genuinely cares I don’t think will do such things after 3 years. I really need prayer for healing and forgiveness…. Thank you…sorry so much.–Unfairly Treated


Dear Unfairly Treated: I certainly will pray (and ask our readers to pray) for healing and forgiveness. But I have to ask you, my friend. Do you love this man? When he came into your life, you were 7 months pregnant. Is it possible you were more grateful to him than in love with him? Maybe your relationship has changed and he no longer feels needed, loved, or even respected.

You don’t mention if he’s found someone else. If so, that could explain why he’s blocking your communication.  However, if you can get through to him, ask him to meet with you ONE TIME to discuss the situation. Let him talk first. Hear him out. Then let him know how you feel–calmly and without accusations. Possibly there’s been a miscommunication. Possibly the things you did that didn’t seem “that bad” seemed that bad to him. Find out. Communicate.

One thing I’ve learned about relationships is whether they’ve been in place for 3 months, 3 years, or 30 years, you can’t count on length of time to keep them in place. Successful relationships take work. Couples need to respect, support, encourage, and communicate with one another.

Depending on how that meeting goes, you may find your relationship would benefit from Christian family counseling so you could work through your differences with the help of a mediator.

And, speaking of family, any relationship is strengthened by commitment. If you get back together, press for marriage. Give your relationship the legitimacy and permanency it deserves–and give your child the stability of a Christian home.

If you don’t get back together, concentrate on doing whatever is best for your daughter, remembering that your love for her counts far more than material things. And be sure to teach her about Jesus’ love for her and all people. Teach her that she can do all things through Christ who strengthens her and her mama.

God bless. Julie


Remember, friends, as challenges come our way,we can face them head-on
through Christ who strengthens us!

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