Facing our challenges head-on!Challenges Women Face

April 5, 2016

Dear Julie:

I am 43 and my husband is 38. We’ve been married since 2008 and I had 2 children. Then in 2010 we had a baby gal. We have had a lot of issues.  He has walked out on our marriage and back again. I have been the stable one with a career in the military. When he leaves I am always left to pick up the pieces

He say he believes in God. In 2013 he went to trucking school. He comes home after 7 months and will send money when he wants. Last year he quit, came home, stayed 2 months, and went back to trucking saying he will never return. Now he doesn’t send money but will get the baby a birthday present and Christmas present. But nothing more. The last time we saw him was at his mother’s on Thanksgiving. He says he has to do stuff and get on his feet by himself without my help. He says all we’ve got is because of me. He has cheated on me and gambled.

I believe in marriage but I feel am not single or married. I have cut communications, and now I want to file divorce and walk away. I have fasted and prayed and even with my pastor but it get worse each time. I love him and I know God’s got me . . .but how long do I keep this up? He truly doesn’t want to be with me. Please help and keep me in your prayers. Thanks. –Unsure


Dear Unsure:

I’m so sorry. This must be over-the-top difficult for you, and for the children. Even though your husband says he believes in God, he doesn’t act like a believing Christian. And it would certainly appear he’s abandoned you and the children.

I Corinthians 7:15 says, “But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.”

Sometimes even when we love someone, even when we know that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16), we must face the fact that our partner has not lived up to his vows and has, instead, abandoned us. Since you cannot force him to stay with you, you must let him move on.

And then you move on. Lean on God. Let Him be your husband until such time as He brings a true believer into your life. Don’t settle for less. No matter how lonely you feel, work on through it. God will see you through. All you have to do is read the testimonies of so many of our readers that God has been faithful to guide them along the way.

And speaking of our readers, I’m asking them to give us the benefit of their thoughts and prayers.

God bless you,


Remember, friends, as challenges come our way,we can face them head-on
through Christ who strengthens us!

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