Wanting to Help

Facing Our Challenges Head-On!

December 1, 2015

Dear Julie: 7 years ago I was diagnosed with an illness that my ex fiancé gave me. We ended our 9 year relationship a year ago. I’m over the relationship but I never really dealt with the illness. Now that he’s out of my life, I’m trying to find my way with this illness. I really want to go into public speaking for young adults dealing with this illness and also preventative measures. I’m so confused and hurt I don’t know if I’m coming or going. All I know is I want to help. And my testimony will help a lot of people I just don’t know where to start.–Wanting to Help


Dear Wanting to Help: Bless you for wanting to help others avoid the illness you contracted. I applaud your desire to turn “lemons into lemonade,” to make good come out of something tragic. And I applaud you for taking the initiative to find ways to educate others.

Yet you say you’re confused and hurt and don’t know whether you’re coming or going. I trust you’re getting the medical attention you need. That’s so important because STDs won’t go away by themselves (and some will never go away but must be kept under control). And I assume you know that Jesus loves you and, if you’ve asked Him, has already forgiven you for any errors of judgment you made. The question is, have you forgiven yourself? That’s often the hard part. So be sure you’ve forgiven yourself and move on.

Maybe helping others will redeem your own sad experience. Not sure if everyone realizes what a good work many pregnancy resource centers (formerly crisis pregnancy centers) perform with their abstinence education presentations in the schools. Contrary to what we often hear, abstinence is the only 100%-effective measure to prevent pregnancy and sexually-transmitted diseases. Our kids need to know this! If you or others of our readers are interested in public speaking to young adults, you can visit and contact the center nearest you. Ask them about their abstinence presentations. They will train you and help you on your journey to make a difference. Kids are more likely to listen to someone who’s “been there.”

May God bless you as you seek out your options and move forward in the light of His grace.


Remember, friends, as challenges come our way,
we can face them head-on
through Christ who strengthens us!

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